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by the sheer fact that you are not me, you are already ahead of the game
Be friendly! Don't act creepy! and just show that you are interested in her!
How do I communicate to her the fact that I'm interested in her, without creeping her out?
Do not, do not, tell her that you frequent this site. n_O
You can't really make her like you. Do something to strike up a good conversation and don't act creepy. :) <--- Chick.
say really nice words to her, then accuse her of stuff, that way she will be confused
Next time you see her at the gym say hello! but don't right away be like hey lets go on a date that is pushing creepy!
Sometimes when you are attracted to someone, they may not like you back and it creates a sense of being mislead. I would recommend not rushing things. :)
Show her that you're in the gym to better yourself one step at a time. Show her that you're a gentleman. Do not to pump up and shine your guns in her eyes and stare at her butt when she walks away or thrown an extra 500 lbs on the bar when she's near. ^^
do any of y'all want to help me with bio? :) haha
point out negative things about her, that she didnt even know she had, then well thank you for it and love you even more
I've been attracted to other girls before, and I've been unsuccessful every time. Is it because I'm a bad person in general? Is my thick accent too bad for them? :( They always compliment me on my smell though :D
Just don't go after the first girl you see you have to build a relationship before you start dating
Maybe you're putting too much cologne (girls say things like that as a ways to say "chill out with the smell, yo"). lol
How do I build a relationship with that babe, then?
1. Don't think of her as a "babe."
tell her that you are ready to commit to her, then back off everytime things get serious
friend the thing is that never try to lie and always be honest to them and the remaining thing the almighty will do for you
Be friendly when you see her like by saying hi! and then ask her if she like regularly works out there and so forth but don't go into the creepy conversation of where do you live yet!
I was just reading my text for psychology and it says that the more you see someone, the more you become attracted. I think that having a sense of humor is a big plus. Chicks love to laugh.
I like sitting close to her (beside her) and chatting with her about trivial stuff; she's really interesting in conversation.
what do you mean sitting by her? I thought this was at the gym
also make sure you make of big mess of things with someone you work with, so that everytime you go to work you feel so akward and uneasy that you even think about qutting, even though you love your job
@Lagrange what? O.o
then on top of that play with this young ladies feelings so much, that she threaten you with doing crazy things unless you commit to her. Then tell her you will commit to her just to stop her from doing dumb things. But secretly you are trying to find a way to get out of it
Should I follow Lagrange's advice?
He's trying to be funny... somehow.
Not at all! if you want this girl
Oh. no wonder I had trouble comprehending his advice :-P What if she is already seeing somebody else?
not trying to funny, just venting all the feeling i have tried to bottle deep down inside me
Well we are here for you(as long as you help me with bio haha) jk
If she's already seeing someone else, then it's a lost cause. 1. If she dumps her guy to go out with you, then she's an opportunistic slut. 2. If she truly loves her guy, then there's no way in hell you're going to get her.
Too bad I've already forgotten the details of what I've taken in Biology :( so I couldn't explain to you the detailed processes in aerobic respiration and point out to you the negative/positive feedback mechanisms
@across How am I ever going to finally get a girl to stick with me then? :(
I think you need to not give up on this girl! But its going to take some time if you want anything to come of it!
then finally realize that you love this girl, and feel like crap because you have messed things up
@Lag That's what I've been doing for all these years :(
You haven't messed anything up with this girl cause you haven't even started anything
then you realize that this girl is o special, that no one can replace her, but now you can do nothing to save it
Be on the lookout. Remember that the place in which you meet girls plays a big role. If you're the intellectual type, for Christ's sake don't go out finding a girl at a bar but rather a library or such.
I like girls who are intellectual, but who also know how to have fun :-D
Please don't say for Christ's sake that is so trashy
agdgdgdgwngo you cannot get all the qualities together right?
Should I dial or text her? I almost never dial girls I wait for them to dial me because I'm shy.
You should then consider going out to conventions, the downtown library, or join a college student group.
begin with text i must say
@Akshay There are a lot of girls out there, and you will be surprised.
I would text her! it is more traditional that way and if it is a classy girl she will prefer it that way then
Never, ever, text; it portrays loads of insecurities. It's something you're going to have to get over; a girl will never make the first call unless she's desperate.
What if she doesn't like my accent? In the past, when I had phone convos with girls, they would think I'm their dad :-P
I agree call! Make the first call!! we believe in you! what type of accent is it?
That could be a good thing! Many girls end up marrying guys who remind them of their dad.
lol @ across
DO ANY OF YOU WANNA HELP ME WITH BIOLOGY I AM SO LOST HAHA!
Why don't I just be down to earth, phone her up, ask her "Hey wanna hang out at my place/let me hang out at your place?" and then proceed from there?
Never at your place or her's on the first date! Mistake one for being creepy! Go to a public place!!
That could be too straight up depending on how long you've known each other. @Lagrange: what up ? ):
I don't know how to befriend this girl :( maybe I should give her number to one of my taller friends and watch how he wins the girl?
you dont wanna know. All of the above^
well then what happens when she ends up liking your friend how are you going to feel
Häää? What do you mean with "taller?" o.O
Girls like their guys tall, right? I'm only average height :(
let me bury my self in my f-ing calculus book and shut up
I do personally like tall guys but as long as you are sweet girls will like you!
Don't mind your shortcomings (no pun intended)! Be confident because a girl can easily tell when a man doesn't feel good about himself.
Yeah across is right! Be confident it is the key to what wins girls over
Maybe that's why I lost those other girls; whenever they ask about me I drown them with my stupid self-deprecation.
See I'm doing it right now :-D
dont worry man, you can never mess up as badly as me
I'm only 17; I have so much more room for failure :-D
If only I could learn from my failure :-P
anything you do i can top
Fine I'll dial her and ask her to meet me soon. That's a confident move, right?
I am 17 to! You don't need to live in failure!
Maybe if I got into medical school (I couldn't afford to though) girls will look in my direction.
girls will look at you even if you are a dummy. But finding the right girls , now thats a challenge
as long as you are a good person sweet and loving you will find the right girl! Promise!
i found her and then i lost her, that is a tragedy
I've already found lots of nice girls, but I have trouble reaching them :-(
"Maybe if I got into medical school (I couldn't afford to though) girls who love money will look in my direction." I fixed that for you.
i corrupted this girl, and then pushed her away, cause i felt bad about what i did
It doesn't get any more true than what ineedbiohelpandquick said up there.
So how do I become sweet and loving?
dont be like me, for starters
I've met guys who aren't 'loving' and 'sweet' in the ideal sense, and yet they are surrounded by nice girls. why?
cause they are good at prenteding to be sweet, they are two faced like me
I really think you need to stop living in self pity! Embrace this girl in a way that is humbling but also confident at the same time! Show that you have respect for her and your self! Have the guts to actually call her if you honestly like her! and let the rest fall into place!
yeah, maybe if this were a fairy tale that would work
I'll find out if she's interested soon enough. I wish high school taught me how to pick up girls :-( all that calculus, physics, biology, and english was worthless.
or maybe it only my life that suck
Okay this is the problem! stop complain and do something!
i cant do anything, im a little weaking on the inside, or maybe i just have to accept the fact that i hurt everyone i love
So here's what I am going to do: 1. Log out of Openstudy 2. Dial her 3. Win her heart! :-D thanks guys
Do you all know this... it is important to respect others bur first you must respect yourself before others will respect you?
I know that this question is pretty old... but perhaps I could give you some tips for the future. And to be clear, I was brought up in Europe. I have European standards. 1. Know your savoir-vivre. Be a gentleman, open the doors for her, carry the umbrella. This will make her feel... good, because this is how women were treated back in the days: with full respect. And trust me: women still pay attention to those things. 2. Do not be loud. Try to be... easy-going. This will make a woman more relaxed in your company. 3. Do not over-talk. The best balance is 50%-50%. Anyone who speaks too much may be considered egocentric. 4. Make light compliments. I honestly like to hear "you have very nice earrings..." (lol, yes, I know, very cliche... but hey: some women like some cliche) 5. Bringing one flower to the date is nice. Just a simple flower with a nice ribbon around it. A huge bouquet would make a woman feel overwhelmed. Oh, and do not get a red rose. 6. Do not chew your gum so that everyone could hear it. Do it with your mouth closed. 7. Same when dining out. Do not speak with your mouth full. Take small bites. Do not act like a caveman ;) I would write more dating tips, but I am mad-as-hell tired. I need sleep. Anyway, if you would like to ask anything, send it my way: firstname.lastname@example.org. All confidential. All questions more than welcome : ) I used to write a blog with love-romance-date advice few years ago... Ah, good times. I should get back to it!
lol soo did you get the girl!?
What a bump. I bet you he doesn't even remember her.