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Very, very serious! Don't even think about it. Learn to deal with your emotions in a healthier way, self-harming is not the way to go about... Taking it out on yourself is never the answer when other people are boorish and inconsiderate. If you cut your wrist or some other vital area (eek) then think about the consequences of it – all the pain you will feel (ouch, ouch) and you might end up in the hospital. You shouldn't ever have to hurt yourself, if you do, come to me.
Self harm can lead to death as well. Some people, who are in pain, think that their problem is unsolvable, that its just so painful that no one has ever experienced such pain. But you see, its not about problem being unsolvable, its about you seeing it to be so. You don't need others to make you understand that. You need yourself, only you can do it, because no one but you knows the pain you are experiencing. When you see your close friend or anyone dear to you in pain, what would you do? Talk to her maybe? Support her? Tell her it'll be okay? Tell her you are there for her? Well now view it from the other side That friend in pain is you now And the actions and support you would give that friend, give it to yourself. Would you tell your close friend to self harm to get away from emotional pain and turning to physical as its less painful compared to whats happening inside her? I don't think so, as i wouldn't want my close friend to do so. Thus, don't allow yourself, love yourself just like you love your close friend. Treasure your body, your mother had to carry you in her womb for many months, uncomfortable, and went through unbearable pain to give birth to you, thus show your gratitude at least by not harming what she was protecting from world, inside her body, just to let you develop into healthy baby. Its so important to realize this as soon as possible, because time is not something that would go backwards, so you cannot go back to change your past, thus focus on your future, as thats what you can see and control. Surely not letting go off the past will have an effect on future, thus let it go. I usually say this to people that do this cutting or wish to suicide: 'When flying off the bridge, you understand that all your problems are solvable. Except one - you're already flying off the bridge ..' So whether your question was about your problem or anyone you know, make sure to relay this message to all dear to you people that are going through pain. :)
@Miracrown I already do, sadly. :( I've been cutting since March 17th, 2014, so a year and 4 months and I'm trying to figure out a way to stop. @Somy thanks, but sometimes I feel lik thats waht everyone who knows tells me..
@AliceCullen do you know the root of your problem/pain?
what exactly makes you want to cut? what is bothering you? when you know it for sure, thats where you start treating your inner wounds
@Somy everything really, my step-dad, life, words..
if i could, i'd talk to you, one on one, talk though your problems and all and support you at least emotionwise i see that you are at your weak state , its sad to see this. All i can give to you, is advice on how to handle all the struggle, but you see, the one to make decisions is none but you. may i know how old you are?
Your going to think I'm crazy @somy but I'm 15.
@AliceCullen why would i think you are crazy? I asked about age, because younger people have softer hearts and 'inner worlds', thus they are not strong enough to bear the pain they experience, they need someone to help them which is why im worried. Im 19, and i have been through painful days and all, specially considering the fact that im HSP with high level of empathy, it was unbearable, but good thing im spiritually strong, and i grew to be stronger. So you need someone that can push you to get stronger. :)
@Somy but what if I can't??
@AliceCullen you gave it a try?
@Somy i've tried stopping, but its as if everytime I'm not upset and I'm like super happy, something ALWAYS happens that makes me upset again.
@AliceCullen so your coping method is self cutting?
this is where you must start changing
But what if I can't? I can't cope with my own pain in any other shape or form!
what do you like doing? what are your hobbies? how do you prefer spending your free time?
Singing, song writing, singing, painting writing
writing writing songs painting
your pain write it paint it
mostly, i'd go with these two options
I can't. It was found one day by someone (they were being nosy in my notebook) And calle the cops.
no dont do it that way
when you feel down take a piece of white paper then start writing everything you are feeling at that moment
after you are done with it take that paper squash it up as hard as you can
I could just rip it up..
squashing it up is better way i think and after throwing it in trash can take the trash away to throw it outside you know its like a daily routine
as you do it your midset has to be this way that paper had all your pain and now you are throwing it away its gone you go back home, without it
I wish tat would work ;-; I think cutting is better
this process, i do it in meditations when im too depressed i just sit and think of all bad stuff then i do the actions i told you, but in my head by just imagining since you are cutting for you, physically doing it at first is better to make you get used to it
Well sometimes, late at night, if I had a bad day, I'll rethink all the things that happened, which will make me want to do more than just cry..
see, your mindset itself is in cutting so the change has to start about how you think meaning you must believe you can you see our brain is like this, when we tell it 'i cant', it just accepts it, in other words you are not even let it try it out, your brain doesnt know 'i cant' phrase
it just doesnt know it it wants to try everything but you are saying 'i cant' and putting restrictions
by the time you reach adult world, you must get stronger, because that time, will without doubt be a tough time, its like a tunnel, and as you know a dark tunnel always has and ending, and it is bright you just need to keep going and not giving up, boost up your will power by putting yourself an aim in life
My aim in life is to get it the f*ck over honestly >.<
and how can you get over it by self harm?
in this case, you are running away from it not getting over it
*get it over with
Ending it, of course, I've never tried to purposely kill myself.. Yet..
are you sure? do you really think thats what you want?
the only think you are seeing in front of you is just that pain thats it
I don't know..
i think you should start with writing and throwing it away to set up your mind into correct direction just give yourself a hope
But what hope is ther >.<
hope to find whats worth living for to see it to realize it and embrace it later on
There's no Hope left. I've tried finding it.
giving up is not an option
Yes it is.. Plenty of people have done so!
if plenty of people throw themselves off the bridge you'll do it too?
Not because they do so, no.
exactly you have your head on your shoulder
after falling i dont see you stand up you are on the floor right now and you are not wanting to get up from the dirt of the floor and shake off all the dust and dirt
you have given up you dont want to get up you dont want to even try to get up do you really like losing?
i wish for you to get stronger its painful to see a young girl suffering like this and me as a person not being able to help you see, im a future doctor, i will see deaths, unbearable pains and sufferings, the only thing that keeps me going is that at least, at the very least i'll be able to help some of them, reduce their pain, physically or emotionally, thats my hope and wish try to find that light, please, just give it a try, just don't give up
Oh, what kind of doc will you be? @Somy
@Miracrown will decide specialization later in the process of studying, not sure yet